Introduction
I, Lady Lantila has come of age, but I am yet to be engaged, I am not a lesbian like others in my country. My country is considered to be an advanced one where everything and anything goes. I am 167 centimeter in height, clear pupils, pointed nose with standing and pointed breasts. I have opened my eyes and mind for the possibility of coming across a man; respectable, loving and caring but I could not find one. There is difference between having money and the ability to take care of one’s spouse as one ought to do. Lady Lantila needs someone who will take me into his arms in the day and in the night, but those I have been coming across I considered not to be genuine.
I have read different articles on love, relationships and marriage. Apart from this I have attended some marriage and relationship seminars and what I discovered is that about 90% of those articles, seminars, discourage internet love and relationship.
Cause of the Discouragement
These people discourage internet relationship and love by saying that people lie a lot through this medium. “The easier way or place to tell lie is the internet”, one speaker said. So many people put up false appearances and statements through this medium. Some of the writer’s posit is that they have not seen people who come together through the internet and have a happy home, thus in the strongest possible terms’ possible internet love, relationships and eventual marriage have been condemned at best and discouraged by these writers, bloggers and speakers.
Well, all that those people have cited come from their own experiences and or perhaps from the experiences of people close to them. I can and would not fault these but despite all these, I still believe that this internet love can work-out if the concerned parties are sincerely sincere to each other.
Consider These
Think about these, some of us through the internet have read so many articles about how to control our weight through feeding habits and patterns and because we are sincere to what we have read, it has worked for us.
Some through the internet have read and watched things on how to become saved and having seen that they are truly sinners, myself being one of them, we have repented of our sins and give our lives to Jesus Christ after reading those messages. Though I was not going to parties, stealing, fighting doing all sorts of obvious sins, but hearing and reading on the net that when one sees himself or herself as morally standing it is still a bankrupt standing before God and such bankrupt standing cannot take me to God, I saw how foolish I was and I yielded a new leaf, in given myself to Jesus Christ.
Having done this, I have received joy, peace of heart that is indescribable in my heart which I do not have before and this I believe is the experience of some who have indeed given their hearts to Jesus like me through the social media and internet. And I have known that this is the similar experience shared by people who got saved through the supposed normal means, (being directly preached to) that is what they used to share with us as the experience they have had after taking the step.
I remember that one of the late America preachers, Charles Finney, said he got saved after reading some portions of bible. He did not have anyone directly speaking to him where he was, but his life was touched in the woods through the pages of the book he saw and read. Testimonies also abound of some preachers today who got saved through a tract they found on the floor while walking or strolling around. Such leaflet is a kind of medium through which God through the Holy Spirit reached out unto them. I can attest to it that many of these people are doing well in faith till they breathe their last, and those who are yet alive we have people doing well among them till now.
Incidentally some of those who got saved through one-on-one contact with some preachers are wobbling in faith, some have gone back from the race, why? It is a simple, because they have not sincerely given their lives to Jesus Christ when they said they got saved.
“Uhm”, people got saved through social media, they continued in faith and are doing well in the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ because they are sincere to themselves.
It is no hidden the fact that so many lives have been saved from untimely death through what they read on the social media, someone who would have run into where armed robbers were operating was saved through the alert he received on his mobile phone while driving and he had to take another route through which he circumvented the dangerous zone and saved his life and that of his families or others in the vehicle.
I do get announcements or information about people’s demise, friends demise and or colleague’s death on the social media, and on reading such information I believed it, why can’t I ignore such?
From another perspective, I have seen many a one becoming rich today through the use of the social media.
Some people could sit inside their homes and make money at their comfort zones.
Some have their bosses to thank for sacking them, for assuming they were not sacked they won’t know the benefits of the internet. After they were sacked, they have made effective use of the internet to their advantage and by that get their financial lives changed. What they couldn’t make when they were with their bosses, they were secretly making at their comfort zones without hassles without them looking over their shoulders without giving report to anyone.
If all of these could be achieved through the internet and social media, it still beats me hollow why some people could be condemning love and relationship that developed through the social media. I cannot say they were living in the past, but it must be because of the past experiences, bitter ones to those close to them or their very self.
In Brief, The Past
These people condemn love and relationship on the internet because of what they have heard, because of the great percentage of people involved in this act before were “fake” people, they were insincere people. The insincere people were those who first embraced the social media, when the real good people were skeptical about its workability. As those people continued to use the social media, they made the negative use of the media such that others become afraid of going near the social media at all.
However now, I know this has changed, there are many decent, morally standing people who are using the social media, with this I want to believe that the position of those people need to be reevaluated and (possibly) changed.
My View
As for me, I believe that if individuals could be real and sincere to themselves on the social media, love on the social media would not be a regret love as it has used to be.
Social media are avenues to meet with people from any part of the world because the internet has made the world a very small place, a global village. Where it is called a village virtually everyone knows one another in the village.
As people meet on the social media, I want to view it that it is very close to how people meet in taxis, airplanes, ships, sporting arena and other places. The difference in the meeting though is that the people meeting at those places see themselves face-to-face unlike those who meet on the social media who see themselves through photos mostly and recently through video calls.
If what you see through photos you like and have made inquiries into the person’s life and you feel what the person shares with you or says still match what you want in a partner, why not continue?
However, in continuing with the person, you will have to take additional step and it is the step of seeing the person physically. When you arrange to physically meet and you met and you are contented, the ball should be set rolling, but if what you see you do not like for whatever reason, then you should call it quit there and then.
Sacrifice
In seeing yourself, one of you must be ready to sacrifice because if someone in Asia continent has been attracted to another person in Africa continent, one of them needs to sacrifice to seeing the partner if the relationship and the communication is getting deeper.
In my view, it is the person that is financially stable that should be able to make some sacrifices to go and see the person where she or he is.
There are hotels to lodge in to in all the countries of the world. Visiting a country could be done through tourism.
Searching out through Google and other searching engines to know their culture, is good, but this is not enough. Going to the place is essential to know if the person really resembles or fits into what you want in a partner.
On the alternative, the person may be invited to your place, but as I said if you are the one who is financially stable you will do the spending. This of course is in the case that you cannot leave your job. It is a known fact that some people can collect the money of the person they have been talking to on the internet through lies and other dubious means but would not do what you expect the person to do. This can be checked when you invite the person over, saying you will not send the money to the person.
What the person needs to do if the person is really interested in getting his or her international passport. After getting this international passport either through your assistance or by himself, you will invite him or her over to your end.
Book the flight ticket for him or her “to and fro”, getting for the person the hotel to lodge in where the meeting would be taken place.
If you are satisfied with what you see, all well and good, but in the case you are not, since the ticket is a return one, let the person face the airport the next seconds.
This is costly, that is why I have said earlier that one of the duo will have to make sacrifices.
Advise
In doing this, you may consider talking to a very close friend, someone whom you really, really trust, someone in whom you have confidence. A person who believes in your cause.
In addition, the issue of the family should be cleared, this person should be able to present a family member that would attest to what he or she is saying, except the person is from orphanage home. And if from orphanage home, the person should be able to tell the founder of the orphanage home of what is happening.
When you have gotten someone from his family, through him you will make the needful assessments of the person’s character.
These are to ensure that you do not run into roadblocks in pursuing what you believe on. We cannot ignore totally what those people have said about the lies flying around through the social media, but when one puts these in place, one would ensure relative safety for oneself thereby being one of those who will make histories through the internet love and relationship.
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